Experience Joy Through Pain

A few years ago, I received a phone call that would change my life.  On the other end of the phone was a mom who was pregnant a sweet baby girl.  Baby Joy wouldn’t ever be able to come home from the hospital with her family.  Her mom was calling to arrange for a photographer from Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep to photograph the short time that Joy would be alive on this earth.

I have been a photographer for Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep for 5 years, and those phone calls never get easy.  My heart breaks for these sweet families, and I never seem to know what to say to ease their pain.

Joy’s family wanted a few maternity pictures so that they could have a family photo with baby Joy, so we made arrangements for a family maternity session.

That day I met a family that exemplified pure love and faith.  Their 4 sweet little boys instantly won my heart.  So sweet, so kind, so in love with their unborn little sister.

There isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t think about the day we met Joy.  I can honestly say that I met an angel that day.  There were tears of sadness (obviously), but there were even tears of joy as the family got to meet their baby sister and see her sweet fingers and toes.  She melted mom’s heart when she gave mom a number of sweet newborn smiles.  I will never forget the feeling in the room that day.

From such a sad moment, I was introduced to a family that I have since began to count as my own.  Grandpas, grandmas, aunts, uncles, brothers, sisters all gathered round to show their support and love.  They also showed their kindness and love to me.  They included me in their hugs and in their tears.

I have had the honor of meeting these amazing people a number of times since then.  Weddings, family photos, newborn photos, more weddings.  Each time they have included me as one of their own.  Truly there is so much love in this family, more than I have ever seen in a family, and I am honored to know them all.

Sweet little baby Joy now has a new baby brother.  I got to meet Mr. Jonathon at his Aunt’s wedding, and he is just as sweet and just as beautiful as his brothers and sister and parents!  He came to visit me in the studio a couple of weeks ago, and it hit me how blessed I have been to have met this sweet family.

It amazes me that even though there are days that try us to our breaking point, like the passing of a precious baby, we can turn that extreme grief into something beautiful.  I am so grateful that I got to meet Joy, and bask in her presence for the few hours that she was with her family on earth.  I love this sweet family like they are my own.  It’s strange to experience grief and feel blessed all within the same breath, but this family has shown me that not only is it possible, but just maybe that’s how it’s supposed to be!

My favorite memory of the day that we met Joy was when the doctors handed Joy to her mom and dad.  Joy was breathing and cooing!  Her dad said “We are so blessed, we are so blessed”.

I love you guys so much, and I am so happy for your new little addition!  Thank you for adopting me into your family!

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